Urban Modern Family Norms and Parenting Patterns for Child Development

Ahmad Fauzi; Rafadi Khan Khayru

Authors

Ahmad Fauzi Universitas Islam Tribakti Lirboyo Kediri
Rafadi Khan Khayru Universitas Sunan Giri Surabaya

Keywords:

urban family, gender relations, parenting, child development, emotional well-being, socialization, moral growth

Abstract

This literature study explores how modern family norms in urban settings reshape gender relations, authority structures, and parenting patterns, and how these changes relate to children’s emotional, social, and moral development. The review synthesizes qualitative and quantitative findings from previous research on urban families, focusing on the reorganisation of domestic responsibilities, the circulation of parenting ideals through digital media, and the growing involvement of multiple caregivers. The study identifies several dominant patterns, including achievement-oriented parenting, emotionally responsive approaches, and highly protective styles that limit children’s autonomy. These patterns interact with time pressure, labour market demands, and class-based differences in access to supportive services. The analysis shows that children’s development is strongly linked to the quality of emotional presence, clarity and consistency of rules, management of digital technology, and gradual opportunities for decision-making and self-regulation. The article argues that urban policies, schools, and community organisations need to recognise families as crucial spaces for learning empathy, fairness, and gender equality. The study concludes by recommending integrated parent support programmes, family-friendly urban facilities, and further research that centres children’s own perspectives on everyday family life.

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